More than a few months ago, an adoptress who wanted to criticize me for my anti-adoption stance decided to "expose" me as a sex writer -- an odd thing to do considering I've never been one to keep secrets.  Quite the opposite; I like my job, I've had fun writing about sex and giving sex toys advice, and most people who know me know what I do at work. Those who don't know, don't know simply because it hasn't come up.  My main journal links to the adult toy site for which I write regularly, and I list my occupation online wherever its relevant.

Is it odd to be a sex positive feminist and an anti-adoption activist?  Maybe -- or at least it might seem odd to someone whose sexual experiences didn't work out as intended (in an adoptress' case, perhaps sex lost its joy when it failed to produce a wanted baby).  I've certainly never had that problem! 

Regardless, I'm insulated in my little circle of friends, where there is a healthy attitude toward both sex and adoption.  And by a healthy attitude toward adoption, of course I mean a great deal of skepticism.  I can't see myself ever forming a serious relationship or friendship with someone who didn't understand how important it is to prevent adoption. 

So yes, I am a sex writer.  And a mom, and an activist, and a liberal, and a fighter for reproductive freedom, and a zillion other things that I love being.  Shout it from the rooftops.  I do! 

 

What makes you assume that people who adopt children can't have any? Many people who already have bio children do adopt. Many people don't know or care if they can get pregnant, they would rather adopt instead. Why? I don't really know, ask them.

I would never consider adoption, but I find your swipe at infertiles to be, well, in poor taste and somewhat pathetic.

Watch the stereotypes. After all, you wouldn't want someone to think you are some kinky freak because of your sex toy business, would you?

Dear Mrs.Delbalzo, I am doing reasearch about adoption.I am an adoptee myself and 4 months ago my ex girlfriend relinquished my daughter Savannah to some rich family via independant adoption.I am fighting to get her back but I'm losing. I do have a lawyer. But this process is exensive and they are seeminly going to run me out of resources before I can get my daughter back.I appreciated your articles online and was wondering if you had any ideas or if you would mind my using some of your thoughts more elequently written than my own as part of my court case.I have the same thoughts just not written so well. My phone number is 707-274-7043 in lucerne ca If you have time or any ideas Id love to hear them thank you