More than a few months ago, an adoptress who wanted to criticize me for my anti-adoption stance decided to "expose" me as a sex writer -- an odd thing to do considering I've never been one to keep secrets.  Quite the opposite; I like my job, I've had fun writing about sex and giving sex toys advice, and most people who know me know what I do at work. Those who don't know, don't know simply because it hasn't come up.  My main journal links to the adult toy site for which I write regularly, and I list my occupation online wherever its relevant.

Is it odd to be a sex positive feminist and an anti-adoption activist?  Maybe -- or at least it might seem odd to someone whose sexual experiences didn't work out as intended (in an adoptress' case, perhaps sex lost its joy when it failed to produce a wanted baby).  I've certainly never had that problem! 

Regardless, I'm insulated in my little circle of friends, where there is a healthy attitude toward both sex and adoption.  And by a healthy attitude toward adoption, of course I mean a great deal of skepticism.  I can't see myself ever forming a serious relationship or friendship with someone who didn't understand how important it is to prevent adoption. 

So yes, I am a sex writer.  And a mom, and an activist, and a liberal, and a fighter for reproductive freedom, and a zillion other things that I love being.  Shout it from the rooftops.  I do!